Sunday, 24 July 2011

Making Marriage Work ...!

Marriage used to be simple. Once you said, “I do,” you did, because anything less was unacceptable. However, just because divorce rates were nearly non-existent a couple of generations ago doesn’t mean people were happier. We simply live in a society where couples that aren’t happy have other alternatives. That means that happiness needs to be a key goal in marriage, right up there with paying the mortgage and taking out the trash. Many couples enter NYC marriage counseling to rekindle their love and regain their happiness. Reach out and make the effort. Your marriage will be happier for it.

Find Reasons to Be Together: Since nobody’s forcing you to be married, couples these days need to find reasons to be together. No, guilt doesn’t count. As women have achieved financial parity, they need real reasons to stay together beside the bread and the butter. The good news is that couples will tend to find meaningful ways to make the relationship last, leading to a healthier marriage in the long run.

Have Separate: You might be joined as husband and wife, but that doesn’t mean you’re joined at the hip. Healthy couples learn to find activities they do separate. It’s important to still have enough of your own personal world to feel like an individual. Not constantly sharing the same walls means you’ll have more to share and talk about.

Marriage Counseling: Talk About It: Sometimes professional help is needed in any relationship. Los Angeles couples counseling doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is on life support. Indeed, San Diego couples therapy is a clear sign that the couple is willing to work it out. Admitting the issue if the first step to communication.

Iam late for blogs....!

I had to complete 100 blogs till last monday. I strived hard for that. But the thing that continously hindered my way is Electric failure. I am fed up. For the last 2 months, I hardly get 3  hours a day in which proper electric flow allows me to use my blogger account and put my thought into black & white. This is too much. Just because of their meaningless strike and protest, Iam suffering badly. What should I do? Where should I go to blog. Even this blog i am writing from  a cafe. They charge me Rs50 per hour. I cant sit here more than an hour or two. I am trapped.....!

Pakistan orchestra reinvents jazz classics...!

A new orchestra in the Pakistani city of Lahore is causing some excitement in the world of jazz – and turning around their own fortunes at the same time.
For years, classical musicians in Pakistan have faced tough times. As well as the issues everyone else in the country is facing, their profession all but died.
Most had been making music for the Pakistani film industry but the increasing influence of religion in society, and the easy availability of Indian movies, meant the industry collapsed.
But the Sachal Orchestra is sparking something of a revival. Their first jazz album Sachal Jazz was released recently.
The veteran American jazz musician, Dave Brubeck, described their interpretation of one of his tracks as “the most interesting recording of it he has ever heard”.  


Top 3 Sites To Download Free LEGAL Music Online,,,!

Just a few days agoI found some sites from where one can download free Legal music(non-pirated). These are:



1. Elbows

This is basically a music blog aggregator. It doesn’t host downloads, but instead provides links to hundreds of music blogs out there who either promote legal music or share ways to get legal music for free. I tried this site and believe me, I was shocked with the results. I never though legal music was available for free!

2. Jamendo

Don’t ask me the meaning of this word, but if I was to describe this site in 3 words I would say – I Love Jamendo. It has over 3,00,000 legal music files for download with about 50,000 albums! This is a big achievement as the music they offer are 100% legal. This site offers royalty free music downloads. It even hosts contributions from many new artists which are no doubt awesome!

3. Hypem

Now this is another site like Elbows. It helps you discover new and popular music blogs real time. You can see music and songs raining at Hypem each moment. I was at their site for lets say 10 minutes and I saw at least 6 songs come up. This is awesomely fast! Every 2-3 minutes there is a new song out for downloads or free listening. I personally suggest Hypem to anyone who hates piracy and believes in download legal music.



Do check em all.....!

Self discovering Norway killing: Should I call him a “Christian” terrorist? ...!

Many of you would have read this horrible news that how a guy killed 80+ kids just for sake of nothing in Norway. While initially everyone would have wished to relate it with Al qaeda or some any other Muslim association. Later it turned out the guy was a right wing Christian extremist. Obviously that was a shock for those who had prepared every thing to open up a new can of worms against Islam and Muslims.

I was just thinking the entire scene if it would have done by some Muslim. We would have read headlines like:

Alqaeda killed 85 kids in Norway.
A Jehadist killed many innocent in Norway
A fanatic reciting Quran opened fired on Children.

and what not but ironically none of the main stream media used the term “Christian” while reporting. This hypocrisy and wickedness of West is not new and its futile to talk about it. Thing is, should we , Muslims use the same mantra to expose extremism by Christians?

Wednesday, 20 July 2011

A Review of Kashmir Conflict...!

Kashmir is a disputed territory and India’s attitude is unrealistic. This is my sincere and honest belief. It is only for this reason that India is suffering due to its arrogant use of power. The extent of torture, killings and rapes perpetrated on Kashmiri people by Indian forces are already creating a new record of atrocities. Gouging of eyes, cutting off of men’s genitals, use of ever new methods of torture and endless curfews would shame Hitler’s SS death squads. The Indian occupation army’s deviltry such as gang-rapes, burning of entire villages and crops, destruction of economic life of whole communities and genocide of the Kashmiri people in defiance of international human rights laws, are everyday affairs.

Indian authorities must accept the harsh reality that Kashmir is a disputed area and stop being stubborn. India would have to accept that Kashmir is a disputed State and only after that will a solution to the issue take place. At this moment it is very unfortunate that the Indian leadership and the Indian government are not accepting the hard facts that elections & relief packages will neither solve the Kashmir dispute, nor stop the killings in Kashmir. Packages & Relief-Beliefs are just mere eye-wash, aimed at be-fooling international community with a deception that New Delhi is busy in the dialogue with Kashmiris. People should be able to express their opinions freely. The sacrifices of the people will never end in smoke and these sacrifices will take us to our goal. India has lost its credibility in Kashmir. The people have no faith in the promises of Indian leaders and the Indian government. No talks will be held with India until India accept Kashmir as disputed region, withdrawal of troops from civilian areas, release all political prisoners, repeal of draconian laws and stopping human rights violations.

Regarding the Kashmiri pandits they were never forced by Muslims of Kashmir to leave valley in-fact they were be fooled by that time governor Jagmohan to move to Jammu as he plotted to kill all Kashmiri Muslims but Allah shattered his scheme. we always welcome pandits to reside again in Kashmir. indian media is biased & so they always try to cajole & defame the unity of Kashmiris but they should know that this is 10 million people movement & they can’t shackle it even in their dreams. They call themselves demon-cratic & sick-u-liar country but they lack the bare bones of humanity.
Let us be very clear that we Kashmiris will take our holy cause to its logical end…
                         
Kashmiris, after all, are human beings too. Then why these double standards? The international human rights organizations must take a serious note of the unabated human rights violations in Kashmir and killings of youths in particular.
                                                            –GO INDIA GO BACK–

Stay Divided and See The Fall...!

Today even after almost 64 years of living together under one so called nationality we still are Sindhi, Punjabi, Balochi, Pashtoon, Muhajirs or any other thing the one thing we are not is a Pakistani. One group of Pakistanis hate the other on th bases of provincial and racial belongongness. moreover, the kind of sentiments we have about others are clear with the statement of Zulfiqar Mirza. This politics is a game but unfortunately in every match it is Pakistan who loses but the so-called leaders always win. That is what happened when Dr. Mirza tried to lift image of his ideal Urdu Community leader and put the situation of Karachi and whole country on stake. 

Today there is call for Muhajir sooba (province) as once there was a demand or plan for Jinnah-pur; today if that demand has popped up again with a new name then we are responsible for that. We have always decided to stay divided and now see the fall. The irony is that in Punjab (I do not know about rest of Pakistan) we still call them Hindustani. Is that the justice we do with them? respect can be earned with respect and we overlooked this fact.
Today we have reached to the point when real reconciliation and unity is the need of the hour. And here I do not mean the reconciliation that our beloved president has achieved.

 It is already late therefore; it is request to all the political leasers  to kindly compromise with their real principles. A request tou the nation to wakeup and check our leaders with open eyes and decided that who is right and to what extent. No matter what ever you are, it will always come after your identity of being Pakistani and this fight over political and racial belongingness will only gift destruction as the winners’ prize… wake up for God sake wake up.

Cross Fire – 19 July 2011 ....!

I watched a show of very famous tv anchor Meher bukhari. The show was cross fire and it was aired on 19th July 2011. After watching this show I would say that our politicians go abroad and get admissions in well known universities, but take useless/irreverent subjects, like hotel management or Arts etc., and not in political sciences etc., which their field is, now why they take these subjects because these are easy subject, their actual purpose is to just show off, that I am graduate from Harvard University or MIT. etc. I can say, at least they are not our leaders.

For corrupt government institutes like Railways, PIA and even for K.E.S.C., government should allow private sector to run their on railways, Private air line should be allowed parallel to PIA, etc. So if these governmental institutes are finished and closed down, public don’t suffer and they have alternative for PR, PIA and other corrupt government institutes. Only solution is, to deal corrupt government servants and want to see prosperity awam, must adopt the example of China in this regards, in China they produce their corrupt government servants before the firing squad....!

A jacket with Built-in Air Conditioner....!

An air conditioned jacket! Who wouldn’t want it in this heat, load shedding and high electricity bills. It is a Japanese invention so I request the Japanese government, next time when they think of sending aid to the people of Pakistan , it should  be in the form of jackets with built-in air conditioners.

It works by helping the body’s own cooling system. Normally, sweat is produced and evaporates, causing a cooling effect – but clothes interfere with this process by trapping the droplets.

But the jacket, invented by former Sony technician Hiroshi Ichigaya, produces a layer of circulating air which enhances sweat evaporation. Two fans at the back pump fresh air around the wearer and out through the neck and sleeve ends. Moisture can also pass through the cloth.

The fans – four inches in diameter – are powered by AA batteries, which last for several hours, or by plugging into a computer using a USB cable.
The electrical parts can be removed for washing. The only drawback is the balloon effect caused by the air flow. Do you mind that ? When there is no electricity!

Monday, 18 July 2011

Epic..!

This song takes me to heaven.... ! :Bol na halke halke" by Rahat Fateh Ali khan...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6oPzBXhLxMw

Fired..!

Today Me & my friends opened the fire on the boy working at pizza one... Hey hey.. we didn,t kill him. We just asked him about a piece of hair we found in the pizza while eating. And he was pointless. He was just saying, "sir ur ke aa gaya ho ga believe me our staff wears caps". I mean... kamal hai yar...!

Manchester City United Stadium...!

The new stadium for Manchester City, called the Etihad Stadium, stands for the word ‘United’ in Arabic. Be afraid, be very afraid. Or just ignore this...!



Pakistan has achieved a target of $25.290 billion exports this year...!

Despite tough domestic law and order situation, low foreign investment and bad international financial position, Pakistan has achieved a target of $25.290 billion exports this year. This is a landmark and all the people who have put in their efforts to achieve this target deserve an applause. This was stated by Senior Minister of Commerce, Makhdoom Amin Fahim. He specifically congratulated the industrialists, traders and business community of Pakistan, Ministry of Commerce, and Trade Development Authority of Pakistan (TDAP) without whom this target would not have been achieved. 



MQM Joins the Government again...!

MQM is a typical which cannot survive without remaining in the government, and that has once again been proven now. Dr. Ishratul Ibad is once again becoming governor and it is likely that the MQM will join the Sindh and the federal government once again after staging some more dramas. 
MQM was shown the stick by the PPP to remain in the limits and now PPP has shown them the carrots. The terrified and scared MQM has jumped at the chance and has sent their wanted and criminal man to once again take the charge in the governor house and the game is on again for the MQM, with their ministers pressing their suits.
So who is responsible for all those people who died in Karachi in target killings.

Two Girls...!

This is a tale of two girls who were born in different families and led different lives but it carries a great lesson for all of us. One of these girls was born in the home of an excessively rich business man. She had been living high off the hog since her birth. The world was her oyster. During her childhood, she used to get something new everyday in form of expensive toys, army of servants, elegant homes and a world of friends. When she grew into a young lady, her luxurious life opened new arenas of sensual pleasure for her. Expensive sports cars, elegant homes at the most beautiful beaches and hill resorts, access to clubs specifically designed for the rich, late night parties with friends, shopping sprees and a lot more. 


She had never thought in her life that all such delectations she was receiving, are coming to her from a Superior Entity. She never bothered to think about God. Being thankful to God was something, she never even considered. She had gotten the world early on and now life started getting boring, routine and predictable. All activities of her life became a donkey’s work for her.  There was no new enjoyment in adventure trips, beach parties and shopping sprees. 


On the other hand, there was another girl who was born in the home of a poor farmer. Although their means were limited but she had a strong desire of achievement in her life. She wanted to be somebody, known. She enjoyed learning. She had her heart set on acquiring more and more knowledge. She kept her nose over the grindstone and achieved material and spiritual feats. After completing her high school, she came to the nearest city to get higher education and made headway in all spheres of life. Every achievement in her life made her more humble and thankful to God. She explored the treasure trove of her potential and made headway in her life by enjoying every small achievement throughout her life.... Her belief in God was indomitable. Her attitude resulted in divine bliss for her and she lived a peaceful and enjoyable life. 


The tale of two girls carries some lessons for us. Starting your life from a lower position and getting achievements throughout your life is better than starting at a higher position and then getting bored in a few years. They key lesson of this story is thankfulness to God, our Creator, our Sustainer. If we remain grateful, He will bestow His bounties upon us. If we are thankless, we achieve nothing....!

In the name of God, the most beneficent, the eternally merciful..!

The Holy Quran starts with the sentence “بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم”. It means that “In the name of Allah, the most beneficent, the eternally merciful.” This formula has an important impact on the life of a God-believing person. A person, who believes in God, should start all of his tasks by pronouncing the name of God.... A person starts a task on the basis of some support. That support might be the intellectual and physical capabilities of person, it may be his/her wealth, it may be his/her friends and companions, or it may be the favorable circumstances. Quran requires a person that (s)he should base his/her tasks on the help of Almighty God. Therefore, Prophet Muhammad صلی اللہ علیہ واٰلہ وسلم said that any task without pronouncing Allah’s name remains blessing less. 


The concept of starting any task with God’s name is not limited to Islam only. Allah, God, Khuda, Ram, Permashore are the names used in different languages to describe only and only one entity. Many people around the globe, who believe in a single God, start their tasks by evoking His name. 


Due to ignorance, some people think that God is not at all merciful since He let them suffer and face hardships of life on the face of this earth. Furthermore, they think that God becomes angry on petty issues and threatens His people with agonies of life in the hellfire. 


This concept is completely wrong.... The first verse of Quran describes that Allah is the beneficent, and His love and affection is eternal. It is true that He gets angry but His anger is limited to those people who are arrogant in front of Him. Majority of human beings are not arrogant in front of the Almighty God. With them, Allah’s relation is that of love and mercy. He is merciful to them and in case of any mistake; He accepts their repentance and forgives them. A person should continuously think that what should be his/her behavior with that loving and caring Lord....!

Artificial Colors of Glamor..!

Women are as important as men for the survival of human race. A woman is a great blessing of God in form of a sister, a daughter and a wife. The most significant role of a woman is ‘the mother’. A mother not only provides a baby with his basic physiological needs but also establish a strong impact on his psychology. A child learns those things from his mother which he cannot learn from the top university of the world….  All complex issues e.g. right, wrong, monotheism, polytheism and determinism as well as practical matters e.g. patience, simplicity, modesty are taught by the mother. If this primary institute is not following the right path, then entire scheme of this life becomes wrong. 


All of us know that the desire of exhibitionism is more in women as compared to men. If this desire remains within its limits, it increases the beauty of this world, but if it crosses all the limits, it results in a disorder. In our society, women exhibit themselves in various forms but the most prominent form is their dresses and jewelery. Most of our women wear their dress to compete with other women. When they wear a garment, they consider it useless for wearing again on another occasion. If a woman does so, she has to face a lot of criticism from her friends. The taste and status of a woman is determined by the cost of her dress. 


Due to this exhibitionism, women wear expensive clothes and jewellery in different ceremonies. In order to establish the image of their distinctive personality, they spend thousands. This attitude results in a demand for money. Their husbands and fathers are forced to earn income in an unfair manner by corruption and other malpractices. Instead of living a simple life, an artificial lifestyle is adopted. A wicked personality is developed instead of an innocent one. Jealousy takes the place of sympathy. Consequently, this great university for the humanity becomes a school of teaching negativity and corruption. 


It is essential now that our women should choose one of these two alternatives: Whether they want to engage their next generations in the endless struggle of this false glamour or they want to teach them a simple and respectful life. A simple lifestyle is the path on which, a person does not need artificial means to develop her personality.

Sunday, 17 July 2011

Thinking after Writing?...!

Once I read somewhere while surfing the internet. There was a guy who gave his book to his colleague who belongs to a religious party. The guy told him that the author has changed his opinion related to some issues. His colleague immediately asked, “Does this author write without thinking?”. When I read all this I said, “The author is one of those people who continue to think after writing.” This mentality is a rare commodity in our society. It was an amazing fact for that religious person that a scholar can leave his previous opinion for a better one. 


It is a fact that intellect and wisdom is the greatest blessing of Allah. A person can differentiate between right and wrong paths by using his / her intellect. Quran invites human beings to think again and again. It is possible that a person may conclude something wrong due to lack of information or a mistake in his / her thinking process. In that case, if that person stops thinking further, then what will happen? 


Only the messengers and prophets of the Almighty know the absolute truth. Religious scholars are supposed to understand the message of God and His prophets. If they know that their previous understanding is not correct, they must change their opinion. It is an obligation imposed by their Lord. 

Trust is Golden..!

With just a few hundred rupees capital, a man from Delhi started a business. He used to buy scraps of cloth which he would sell from door to door. When his business had grown somewhat, he obtained permission to sit on the pavement in front of a shop and sell his merchandise there. 


This freelance cloth-merchant built up a good deal of trust with his wholesaler, whom he impressed with his honesty and fair-dealing. The wholesaler began to grant cloth on credit to the vendor, who always made an effort to settle his debt before the due date. This habit made him even more trustworthy in the eyes of the wholesaler, who granted him more and more cloth on credit. After just a few years, the wholesaler was giving this street vendor Rs. 150,000 (approximately US$ 5000 at that time) worth of cloth on loan, an amount which he would not have given anybody else except on the basis of a considerable cash down-payment. 


Clearly, such a large amount of cloth could not be accommodated on the street. The cloth vendor now required a shop. He bought one, and continued to spiral, and before long he was among the leading cloth-merchants of the old city. It is a mistake to think of money as the greatest asset in life. The greatest asset is trust. On the basis of trust one can buy anything. What one lacks in other departments he can make up for in trust. Trust is an invaluable asset which can buy even more than money....!

Are you killing your family?..!

I got to know that Non-smokers who are exposed to passive smoking in the home have 25 percent increased risk of heart disease and lung cancer. Passive smoking in the home causes 10,700 deaths a year in the UK alone... Parents who have infants at home must refrain from smoking inside the home. More than 17,000 children below the age of 5 years are admitted in the hospital every year for bronchitis and pneumonia, the two major diseases, children suffer due to passive smoking. 


It would be ideal if all the countries become signatories to the WHO’s FCTC (Framework on Convention on Tobacco Control). It ensures that smoking in public is banned. There is a total ban on tobacco advertising and steep increase in taxes of tobacco products. 


We must avoid all these evil practices in order to protect our younger generation. It is strange that in West, there is a great campaign against smoking but they have totally ignored the use of alcohol, which is more harmful for physical, intellectual and moral health of a person than smoking.